Saturday, March 28, 2015
Never stop fighting
There are so many stories contained in one child's journey. Most of the time we talk about how far Kreed's communication has come. From the days of constant rages and behaviors to now constant talking on his device. That journey has been miraculous. But Kreed is also on another journey, that of a medically fragile child. A medically fragile child that cannot tell us in detail how he feels inside.
Recently he's been having daily rages. Sometimes they lasted all day. It was a level of violence we have never seen. Our sweet boy was replaced with an agitated teen who wanted to destroy everything in his path. We watched foods. We watched his sleep, his meds, everything. We asked him on his device. We tried everything. We took him back to his doctors. Nothing came up.
Then today. There it was. Suddenly so clear in front of me. He went from taking a medication for his hyperinsulinism (his body makes too much insulin) a few times a week to then times a day because his blood sugar level destabilized. We traced his rages back to the beginning of that change. He also began to have a rash we also couldn't figure out. We stopped the medication and for the most part he had a calm afternoon.
He went from a rageful boy who kicked in the front windshield of our car to a calm boy watching his iPad and giggling.
I will never get over the guilt I feel when I realize it was something we were doing to cause his rages and discomfort. At the same time, it was supposed to be a medication that saved his life and kept his blood sugars in an okay range rather than the panicked range.
So now we are back to square one. His blood sugars are dropping and he can't have that medication. These are the things that keep me up at night. The worry. The checking his levels the whole night. Not an hour goes by that our life doesn't revolve around Kreed and his health. This is the life caring for a medically fragile child.
I don't know what to even say. Sometimes we feel so lost. Sometimes we feel so inadequate. We don't have answers. Only more questions. I can't help him. I can't cure him. I can't tell him it will all be okay and have it be okay. His whole life is a struggle and that breaks my heart into a million little pieces. I just want to make his life better. Happy.
Most of all, I just want him to be happy. That is all. He didn't choose any of this. He didn't know he was born like this with a body that's failed him his whole life. But I will make his life matter. I will give him a good life. A happy life, for as long as he is with us. I will never stop fighting for him.