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Kreed has been hospitalized almost exclusively since early February. As a result he has needed both parents at home because it takes two people to help deal with Kreed and takes two people to manage the home and be at the hospital for him. Kreed has now suffered through devastating pain with peripheral neuropathy, tonic-clonic seizures with his heart stopping, discovering his rare metabolic disorder that has gone un-treated for 18 years and now a recurrent lung disease. At this point, we don't know how long he will be in the hospital and then don't know how long I will have to be out of work for. So many from Kreed's World have offered to help, so I have set up a paypal account to receive donations. We are appreciative of anyone who can or would like to help.

To make a donation, please use PAYPAL and send to erinmpolk@gmail.com

Giving up was never an option

The life of Kreed is a difficult one. His youth was filled with chaos and destruction as his skills declined and the world no longer made sense. As he got older and had some form of communication with an AAC device, he then struggled with medical emergency after medical emergency and Kreed became a medically fragile and medically complex child no one could figure out. Perhaps one of the most difficult things for Kreed and being incredibly medically complex is the fact that he has paradoxical reactions to most medications.  For each of his medical conditions, Kreed is unable to take any traditionally prescribed Meds or none of them at all. This made his medical conditions that much worse. Throw in a teenager in the throes of puberty who doesn't understand pain and his self injury raged out of control.  

Once Kreed moved to Colorado, he was met with unparalleled medical care. Doctors finally willing to see his medical issues and not his behavior. They also explored even further his reactions to medication. Kreed is left with very few medications to help him. Doctors spoke to us over and over about alternative medications that could help a majority of his symptoms. We were hesitant and had only moved to Colorado to help Kreed's legs as high elevation kept him mobile. 

After another set of reactions yet again due to his paradoxical reactions and plunging blood sugars that would eventually require a feeding tube, we took their advice. Kreed began medical marijuana in the hopes of somehow saving him from his pain and plunging blood sugars, epilepsy (including now tonic-clonic seizures) and self injurious behaviors. The doctors were confident he wouldn't have a reaction to that and there were many different medical and behavioral reasons for him to try it. 

Within a week, we saw Kreed's blood sugars stabilize. Where once there were plunging, unrelenting lows, there was now stability. Where once talking about a feeding tube was a daily discussion, there is no discussion. 

Kreed also has severe self injury. No medication on earth stopped him in his tracks from tearing his body apart. Now there is. Every other medication on earth made his self injury worse. Now he knows periods of calmness and happiness. He still had attacks now and then, but they are far less and far shorter and less intensity than ever before. 

Cannabis has saved Kreed's life. From the medical to mood effects. We knew next to nothing about cannabis and what it can do for Kreed prior to the doctors pushing us toward it. The more we researched, the more we understood. And the more we realized this medication would save Kreed and countless others. Kreed is highly sensitive to any synthetic drug or chemical. 99.9% of the time he can't tolerate. So how thrilling is it that a simple plant has held so much medicine for Kreed and changed his life. 

We hadn't talked about it on here for some time. There is always fear of backlash. Always fear of comments. But no one lives our life and understands what Kreed goes through. And the fact that he can make it through days without injury, weeks without low blood sugars and his terrible neuropathy pain somewhat controlled, and seizures controlled we would be negligent parents to not try it and then keep him on it once we see it works. Comments don't bother us when we have no shame. We leave no stone unturned for Kreed. And I know his story could help many more by telling this part of his story. So many other children and teens and adults with autism that could be better helped with a simple plant. Where calmness can replace chaos and happiness replace self injury. To not see Kreed try to tear himself limb by limb is in itself amazing to us and autism should be a qualifying condition for so many. While Kreed started cannabis for medical reasons, it's also helped his mood and affect as well and be able to handle so much of the medical issues causing him pain and discomfort. 

Kreed's life took yet another step in a journey to health with cannabis. It has been the one medication to single handily save him from so much. So much so, anytime we are admitted, the doctors always make sure we have it and administer it while inpatient. 

So thank you to the open minded doctors that saw what we didn't, and helped our son find his way out of low blood sugars, constant un-ending pain and self abuse. We have so much to be thankful for in Colorado, and this is certainly one of them. 

 *Disclaimer: I am not here to say what will or won't work for your child. I am not here to push any specific medication. Every child is different and only you know what is best. What I am here to say is do not give up, be open minded, research yourself, and realize that most doctors are more than willing to prescribe it and try it. 

Medical Facts about Cannabis

* There are no recorded deaths as a result of cannabis over-consumption.

* The lethal dose of marijuana has never been quantified because it is so high and humanly impossible to achieve.

* There are no serious lasting side effects.  There are certainly risks and side-effects to consuming marijuana but they are more mild than those of most prescription drugs.

* Cannabis does not have to be smoked.   Intake methods include vaporization, eaten in food, taken under the tongue or swallowed as a tincture, oil or even juiced.

* Kreed uses oil 

* Cannabis supports the body as an anti-inflammatory, neuroprotective and a vasodialator.

* There are three main compounds- CBD, and indica and sativa strains of THC. 

* CBD is well known for its medicinal effects on seizures, inflammation and other medical disorders. 

* Cannabis indica is known and used for its sedative and relaxing properties effective in treating medical issues like anxiety, chronic pain, insomnia, muscle spasms and tremors. Indica often causes drowsiness, which is why many prefer to take it at night.

* Cannabis sativa strains are more stimulating and are often preferred for day use as they deliver a more psychoactive energetic-mind-high. This effect is caused by the higher THC levels in sativas than indicas. Often helps with ADHD, migraines and other brain based disorders. 

* We support the use of the whole plant and not just CBD use. 

The Cost

Nobody ever talks about the cost of things. There is a reason why they say special needs parents often have PTSD but no one wants to talk about it. This last visit with Kreed in the hospital was tough. Every time I close my eyes or things are silent, I just hear him scream over and over again. Or when I look outside at the backyard I see where he had his seizure and stopped breathing. 

A lot of special needs parents operate on 3-4 hours of sleep or less. Does anyone wonder what that does to our brains, body and life? Yet you'll see that same parent smile and say she's fine. But we aren't. 

Or when alarms beep at us at 2am telling us our child is having a seizure, or low blood sugar or oxygen desaturations. We live in a constant state of fear for our children. But no one talks about that. If we miss a falling blood sugar, Kreed could die in his sleep. That's also the reality for so many parents with kids with type one diabetes. Kreed has hyperinsulinism so we deal with constant lows. So no, we don't sleep or rest even when it looks like we can. 

Then comes the daytime after a night of little sleep. Either because medically we can't or our kids start bouncing off the walls at 3am and don't sleep so then we have to protect them from getting into things all over the house or trying to escape the house. 

We love Kreed and do everything we possibly can to ensure he has the best life possible. He didn't ask for this life and to be born into the broken body he has. We will never stop fighting for him, loving him, caring for him and making sure he lives one hell of a life. But at the same time, no one talks about what happens in the times we are alone crying and wondering how we can possibly make it another day or fight another doctor or stay up all night another night checking blood sugars. 

And right now, every time I close my eyes I hear his pain scream as he gets his infusions to end his status migraines. Or the way it felt to hold his lifeless body in my arms. These are the moments we don't always talk about because it is so hard. We are conditioned to tell everyone we are fine and okay and we can keep going. Because what choice do we have? We work every day to keep our children healthy and happy no matter what comes our way. People always talk about taking care of yourselves to take care of others, but the majority of time that's not even possible. Some people don't have extra help at home, either due to lack of services or wait times for services. So we just do the best we can do and make sure everyone knows we are okay and will keep helping our children. 

We don't get to go out and have dinner or see movies. We don't get weekends away together while Kreed is taken care of. Our life is Kreed. Maybe one day when he's more stable we will get those moments. But does anyone wonder what that does to you as well? No sleep. No time. No togetherness except bonded in the stress of a child. 

No one talks about the cost of being a special needs parent. It doesn't mean we love our child any less. It doesn't mean we won't fight like hell for him. It doesn't mean we will let his medical conditions overtake him. But just as there is a cost to him having such a broken body that can't do the things he needs to do, there is a cost to us as his parents and our mental stability. The sleepless nights, the aching muscles from holding him down during another pain rage, the lack of togetherness, and the extreme duress our bodies and minds are put through...that is our cost and some days it is more than we can bear. But you will never know that. You'll see me smile. You'll see me interact with Kreed with no trace of tears. You'll see me lift him up and keep getting him to shine. You'll see me wipe away his tears, the blood and help fix him up. You'll see me work to keep him active and busy and happy. You'll see me help him when it's hard. You'll see me trying to think of new ways to help him. You won't see the tracks of my tears, you won't see the blood I cleaned off myself, you won't see the copious amounts of Advil I took for my aching muscles, you won't see my tired, hurt eyes (but you may see my black one ha)

Because I am fine and he needs us right now more than anything we need. He is in pain and hurting. So we love, we love, we love and we pick up the pieces so that our boy may one day smile again. And we keep going like a force no one has ever seen to keep him well, make sure his doctors listen and to find our way back to his dimples. 

But don't ever deceive yourselves when you see a special needs parent smiling. They bear costs that you will never know about and may never understand. 

Zebra Diagnosis

There's a medical saying "when you hear hoof beats, think horses, not zebras." However, in Kreed's case, he has always been a zebra and in the past week, we know how rare of a zebra he is. So rare his doctor said you won't find another person in the state of Colorado with it. There are few people over all in the world with it. 

For those that don't know, Kreed's development was fairly normal until he was 3. Kreed spoke. Had great motor control. Was a smiling, happy, rambunctious three year old. Then over the course of a year, Kreed lost everything. Motor control. All speech and language. Everything. Gone. 

Fast forward years later and things continue to go wrong in his body. Non-stop. Every single year he is hit with something new. He has had specialists follow him his whole life, most scratching their heads. He never fit a box. Never fits any box. Looks like autism, but not quite. Looks like so many things but not really. And his continual decline in health led many to believe it was mitochondrial or generic. But still no one could find it. No one could quite put their finger on it. Tests have always been run. MRI's, exnome sequencing, CAT scans, blood work, lumbar punctures. The list is endless. While everyone can find the diagnosis of the year, no one could find the thing that ties it all together. 

Then we moved to Colorado. Kreed has continued his decline, which also seems to have accelerated. More wrong in less time. More doctors and tests. Then one day, he loses the ability to walk completely. We are devastated and have no idea what has become of our life, his life. So we take him the Children's Hospital of Colorado. 

They are just as confused. They are just as lost to Kreed's sudden decline, but they want to find it. A world renowned metabolics Doctor comes to his room and starts to go through his records which we brought with us. And with the odds against it, he finds a pattern. The pattern leads to some tests. The tests lead to a possible diagnosis. After all these years and all these tests, one doctor, in one state, saw something no one else ever has. 

So here we are, waiting on some final tests to determine exactly what Kreed has. But it's the reason for his developmental delay, his neuropathy, seizures and a few other issues. Something he was born with that no one knew. And it was wreaked havoc in his body, not letting him live a normal life. And now we wait, to see if there is treatment and if there is, what that treatment can do for him, if anything. 

All these years we just wanted to know. We wanted to know what was taking our sweet boy from us, what was taking his mobility and motor skills. What took his speech forever. So we are sitting at Day 10 in the hospital, waiting to hear the next plan and the new diagnosis. Waiting to hear what life has in store for us next and what will happen to Kreed for the future. 

This picture depicts the area in Kreed's body with the dysfunction. We are waiting for the final diagnosis, could be one of five or six things or a new presentation of it. 

And this is the boy we hope to get back with treatment. 

And this is the state that held the one doctor (out of two) in the United States who even has a clue about this dysfunction in the body. Talk about luck in moving. 

The Night Before

The night before. 

It's the night before we possibly admit Kreed to the hospital. So many thoughts run through our hearts and mind. And fear. So much fear. Fear the doctors won't listen to us. Fear that he will get worse. Fear for what his true diagnosis is. Fear of the unknown. We have no idea what caused Kreed to cease walking a day and a half ago. Or what started his hand tremors a month ago. Or why he cries or why he holds his legs out to us to tell us they hurt. We fear.

So tonight is the night before. Tomorrow we have our checklist: medication, Bipap, clothes, food, medical records etc. We will gather and get ready. We will look at each other and ask if we're really doing this. Going into the unknown, for an unknown diagnosis and an unknown length of hospital stay. Are we doing this? We know we are- he lays in pain day after day and shows us his pain. We look at each other and we know we are doing this. 

The night before I'm in the living room sleeping while his Bipap and oxygen machine are providing the night sounds because the only place he could sleep was his comfy green chair. So I sit out here worried and googling what could have possibly taken our son's ability to walk. His ability to be even remotely independent. His ability to communicate. 

Today was so hard. He is completely wheelchair bound and he is now a full grown man almost. Transferring him from his wheelchair takes two people and even then it's difficult. So we fear. The unknown. Is this our life? Did our life just drastically change? Has he lost the ability to walk? What's happened? We don't know. So this night before is a mind trip. Of so many thoughts and feelings that get so jumbled. The anxiety is through the roof. The only peace is knowing he has finally slept after two days. 

It's the night before and I don't know if I can sleep. So much unknown. So much unclear. So much could happen. All we know is Kreed is in pain and deteriorating before our very eyes and there is nothing we can do to stop it. Can the doctors? Can they see past his lack of ability to communicate? Can they see him, a boy of 18 who is probably more scared than we are because he doesn't understand why he suddenly can't walk? Can you even imagine losing the ability to function and not being able to tell a single soul? This is what keeps me up at night. Always. 

It's the night before and all I can do is worry and think and research. And hope- always hope- that there will be a brighter day. But right now, in this very moment I fear. For his life, his ability to walk and if the doctors will be able to help. 

This is the night before. 

 

Letter to the judgmental...

To the asshole who posted the nasty comment on the last video. You saw twenty seconds of our life. Imagine dealing with someone who is bigger than you are, stronger than you are and who only wants to destroy when they are in pain. Kreed can bite so hard he can almost sever his toes and fingers. He beat his head so bad when we didn't get to him fast enough that he left two large blood filled sacks on both sides of his head. You let me know how you would do trying to protect your child 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, sometimes even through the night. While simultaneously trying to figure out the medical cause that is causing the severe self injury. You have to be a doctor too. Also Thinking about how to situate your home so he doesn't have hard surfaces to hit or put holes in. Or better yet, if you want to make a comment about the way I am desperately trying to control Kreed and prevent him destroying his body even further, come over to my house and take over for just 12 hours, and we'll go take a break and recharge ourselves. Let me know how you deal with his ferocious self-injury from the chronic and severe pain he is in daily and make sure to not sleep the night before or several nights before so you can have the same level of tiredness. Except you can't- you also need to protect yourself and someone else all night for several nights in a row and then do it during the day too. 

We do the best we can every day of our life and it's a miracle that we have gotten Kreed this far. We also eventually find the medical cause, often before the doctors. Or we know what it is but it takes the doctor several months extra to do all the right tests to come to the same conclusion. 

In the ER last night, as four security guards and two nurses are helping to hold him down, they look at me and ask me how we do this at home. Because we're his parents and we don't have a choice but to figure out how to protect him the best we can. Sometimes we fail him and he still hurts himself or us. Sometimes it looks bad form outsiders points of view because...YOU DON'T LIVE IT. Every day. Every week. Every month. Every year. You don't know the heart ache of watching your happy, hoppy boy turn into a boy who hates his body and wants to destroy it and can no longer stand up. You don't know the heart ache of laying on a couch in his room next to his bed, listening for his Bipap breaths so you know he's still breathing or staring at his respiratory numbers all night making sure he is okay. You don't the horror we feel when we can't get to him fast enough and he bites another chunk of skin off or bashed his head in so hard he has two blood filled sacs on both sides of his head. 

Or realizing your once mobile, happy, hoppy child is now wheelchair bound because standing causes him extreme pain. And now figuring out how to modify your home so he can access the whole house without having to stand. 

But please, tell me your judgements. They matter so much to me- notice my sarcasm. Normally I say nothing. I delete, ban or whatever and move on. But every so often, I just feel like I need to let it out. Because I have a right to tell people what our life is like and to show others they aren't alone. Kids like Kreed often aren't talked about or shown because it looks so bad to outsiders. Who have no comprehension of what our daily life is like. You do now, because we are brave enough to show it even though we know we will get our fair share of insensitive comments. But we also know our life can provide hope by documenting what happens to Kreed and what he has to overcome and how we help him on his life's journey- no matter what comes our way. We are honest and true and we open our lives up. 

We are lucky Kreed is still here with us and it's been only because of our sheer determination to give Kreed the best life possible. We don't have the kind of life where we can go out and leave Kreed with someone, or have a fun weekend away or trips or even dinner at a restaurant right now. Our life is keeping our son alive to see another day and we desperately work to get him back to himself when he's lost his way. He didn't choose to have this broken body of his, but we will be damned if we will let him suffer. We will work until he is figured out and giving us his incredible dimpled grin again and hopping high.

The world is full of judgmental people and you sir, are just another drop in the bucket. We will still go on with our lives protecting our son and working tirelessly to get him the help he needs and you will go on in your life continuing to be an asshole and judging people's lives you know nothing about. 

To everyone else, thank you for your continued support and love for Kreed. It's heart warming to see so many people care about Kreed and our family when we're just another family out there with a boy who is trying to find his way in this world. We just happen to film and write about it. I am truly humbled by the support. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Frequently Asked Questions

FAQ's about Kreed's World

1. Name: Kreed Joshua

2. Age 18

3. Birthday: September 9th

4. Medical conditions: Epilepsy, Adrenal insufficiency, Hyperinsulinism, Immune deficiency (CVID), Metabolic Disorder (SCAD), Sleep Apnea, Hypothyroidism, POTS (postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome), and Peripheral Neuropathy, Migraines 

5. Communication Device he uses: Dynavox T10 with Compass or the Dynavox Compass app on the iPad

6. Favorite colors: Orange, Green, Blue

7. Siblings: Kreed has two older brothers

8. Pets: 3 Labs (Cinna (his service dogs), Kindle (black lab) and Finley (yellow)

9. School: Kreed is currently home schooled due to his vast medical needs. In the past he has attended school and had home-bound services. 

10. How did he get the T10? Through his state and insurance

11. When did he start a device: Kreed had a device as young as five years old (much older technology than now) but no one knew how to work one! So we started again on our own to teach him full on every day at about 12/13 years old before there were even iPads. And we had a fantastic speech that we closely worked with at about 13/14 who really gave us good direction. 

12. How did we do it? It took a lot of work and taking his device everywhere we went and expecting him to use it and not giving him what he wanted unless he did- to get him to use it like he does.

13. Is Kreed aggressive? Kreed is only aggressive when his medical problems flare up and cause him pain

14. Why did you move to Colorado? We moved to Colorado because the high elevation and colder weather help his pain and leg swelling significantly.  His combination of POTS and peripheral neuropathy made his legs super swell and become very painful in heat and elevation below 5,000 feet. When Kreed is in 7-8000 feet he feels so much better. When Kreed lives for too long in lower elevation and heat, he becomes wheelchair bound.

15. Did Kreed ever speak? Kreed spoke and developed normally until he was 3 and then regressed over a period of a year and lost everything- speech, motor skills, self help skills- everything by 4 years old. 

16. The Adolescent Years! Puberty has been rough and testosterone spikes cause all his medical issues to get out of control and he will rage more. At the same time he has developed a lot of skills during these years. But it has been scary as he developed strength and weight and he is much more violent with his rages and when he is angry. It is harder for him manage his emotions. And his sleep! So overall we are surviving but puberty gave us a whole different child and complicated his medical issues tenfold!

17. Greatest Strength: His innocence and pure love for others, as well as his willingness to learn new skills and especially to communicate. 

18. Greatest weakness: Social awareness is one of Kreed's greatest weaknesses. He will watch other children but will not intimate contact or speak to them with his device. He has no self awareness for himself either or knowledge of danger. 

19. Likes - anything Doctor, he loves going to the Doctor and he loves Doctor equipment and Doctor shows, Snoopy, Bowling, riding his bike, music, car trips, hiking, showers, swimming, Star Wars, watching movies like Avengers, Monster's Inc, Toy Story & Tarzan, Horses, and loves Christmas

20. Cool Facts: Kreed is very aware of his surroundings and if asked on his device he can tell you his name and spell it and his age and his brothers names and aunts and uncles and grandparents, and surprisingly to us told us he has autism and how hard it makes things for him to communicate and to move his body. He will say what all his favorite things are and what he dislikes and what he wants and let us know what hurts on him, understands a pain scale and sometimes if we don't know what he wants he will spell it out. We will have a conversation and not realized Kreed was listening and he will suddenly start talking on his device about it or ask us a question!